I have noticed something about our teens lately that is quite encouraging: they are not embarrassed by us older Christians.

Going to church, singing spiritual songs, being among so many adults, this is not exactly cool. Yet every week, I see one or more of our teens bring a friend of theirs to church. This tells me that they are not afraid to acknowledge their Lord; they love and respect their youth minister enough to introduce their friends to him; and, all in all, they must think that the rest of us are okay since they are not worried that we will embarrass them in front of their guests. Of course, they are not the only ones who bring friends to church. I see many others who do so, and I encourage you to continue practicing this type of evangelism.

Today, I would like to make a couple of suggestions for those who regularly bring friends to worship services. Bringing them to church is a great first step, but you need to add a few other things to help their faith grow.

1. Make sure your conduct outside the church building is the same as your conduct inside the church building.

If it is not, your poor conduct outside the church will merely reinforce the widely held concept that Christians are hypocrites.

2. Let your friend know that the church is your priority.

If you are with your friend when you should be in church when you are in places with your friend that you know church people ought not to be, you are showing your friend that church is not really that important, that God’s word does not mean what it says. If the church is important to you, your friend will grow to respect that and hopefully want this as a priority in life.

3. Be concerned for your friend’s spiritual life, not just your friendship.

True friends want what is best for each other. For example, if you find a bargain, you want to share it. If you discover a great new song, movie, or restaurant, you want your friend to experience it.

If Jesus Christ is changing your life, transforming your character, and filling your heart with peace, joy, confidence, and knowledge, would you not want your friend to have all these things, too?

Your friend will eventually discover that spiritual things are important to you, and they will also need to discover that your spiritual well-being is important to them.

There are ways of demonstrating this to them:

  1. Let them know you are praying for them and are willing to pray for specific needs.
  2. Continue to invite your friends to church so that they feel comfortable here and begin to develop friendships with Christians.
  3. Love your friends with pure, kind, forgiving, fair, and generous Christian love. They will know Christ by experiencing His love in you.
  4. Invite your friend to study the Bible with you. The word of God is most powerful when it comes from a friend’s lips. In Bible study, the key issues of salvation will come up, and your friend will be brought to the decision whether to accept Christ or not.

You see, it is not enough to bring your friend to church; you have to bring your friend to Christ if they are to be saved.

Discussion Questions

  1. Describe how you successfully brought a friend/family member to Christ.
  2. What is the main obstacle in bringing others to Christ, in your opinion? How do you overcome this?
  3. Share one way you used to begin sharing Christ with someone.